Male Fashion Do's and Don’ts: Tips and tricks for attracting women

We live in a world of opinions, especially when it comes to attracting the opposite sex.  Views on what women find attractive can be confusing, time-consuming and frustrating to understand for a man.  Women like to be pleased, and what men wear on a first date is extremely important because first impressions truly do matter.   Fashion advice is thrown at men, but it’s hard for them to decipher the facts from the fiction because rarely is the fashion advice explained.

One thing men need to know is that all women are different and each one tends to be drawn to different looks and styles.  This may seem alarming, because how will you know what to wear?!  A good thing to note is that most all women are attracted to men who look clean, casual and confident.  This is especially true on a first date, where looks weigh a lot more than they do on any other date. 

Worry no more because we did the research for you! Below are 3 fashion tricks for men to help them make the first impression they yearn for.  So sit back, throw on those reading glasses and enjoy the next five minutes of fashion education that is sure to aesthetically please any woman in your life. 

1.) Shoes are VERY important!  Women tend to look at the details! If you have planned your outfit well you will have everything covered, even your shoes!  Us females notice the particulars, and it has a substantial impact on how we perceive the first impression you make.

• Do:  Get one pair of white and one pair or black kicks, with little to no design.  That way you can dress them up or down (depending on the date situation).  Also, by having a few seasonal shoes for all types of weather shows to women that you are prepared for anything.  Try a pair of leather loafers for the winter or classic all terrain sandals for a summer hike!

• Don’t:  Never wear socks and sandals; they make you look clueless and sloppy. If you chose to pair them together, that first impression will also be the last impression.

2.) Wear clothing that fits your body well.  When you wear shirts and pants that fit well, and frame your body in a flattering way, you will always impress a woman with your look.  Also, when you wear fitted clothes women perceive them to be more expensive.  That way they will never know that shirt you’re wearing was only $15 if it fits you like a glove. 

• Do: Find a quality tailor and never let them go!  If you get that magical tailor to work wonders on your clothing you will actually save more cash in the long run, and get more dates too!  Why wouldn’t you want a shirt or pair of pants that looks like it was made for your body?!

• Don’t: Please don’t wear jeans that are too big, especially without a belt.  Women loathe when a man waddles with his pants sitting on his thighs and knees.  We should never have to see your boxers unwillingly outside of the bedroom.

3.) Don’t skimp on the outerwear, a casual jacket is an essential wardrobe staple. Far too many times women have mentioned to us that although their date dressed great, once they put on their jacket they look like a good-for-nothing mess.  Make sure to have proper jackets for the outfits you are wearing. 

• Do:  Make sure you have one classy jacket and one casual sweater. Having a fancy jacket for a more formal date completes the outfit, and the same goes for wearing a nice neutral sweater for a more spontaneous dating experience.  Whatever date you chose, remember to follow through on your wardrobe by including a great outerwear piece to keep you, and your date warm!

• Don’t:  Wearing a worn out sweater or jacket with a broken zipper or a coat with holes in it is a BIG no-no.  When you wear clothes that should have been tossed long ago your date is probably thinking the same about you! 

Looking fresh and clean doesn’t require much time, money or experience, but it does impress a woman.  So men, remember these fashion tricks next time you go on a date and you will be feeling clean, casual and confident in no time!

A Great Place to Meet Singles in San Francisco: The Local Gym

Although the gym can be a scary place, especially for those of us who do not frequent it, it can also be a water hole for meeting exceptionally great singles in San Francisco.  You may be thinking “But Luvidya, I don’t go to the gym, so how is this beneficial for me?”  Whatever your excuse for not going the gym, change it.  If you can’t afford the expensive monthly memberships why not get a pass for 10 sessions.  You are sure to get your moneys worth, not just from physical gains, but more so from watching the decedent eye candy in the free weights section, lifting things up and putting them down.  So get off that booty of yours and start trotting on that treadmill, or participating in a spin class, or if you are feeling extra confident, head to the free weights section and ask for that eight-pack bro to spot you on your curls (and no, we don’t mean an 8-pack of beer).

How to meet someone at the gym

1.) Join a spin class:  Spin classes are a great place to meet people.  By doing an extremely difficult workout you will all be releasing endorphins.  Chose to sit next to someone and cycle in sync with him or her.  This opens the doors to piping up a conversation with them after class.  Each time you go it will be easier to chat and flirt with them (or even set up a date!).  Alternatively, if you are feeling a bit shy, chose to sit on a bike behind them so you get a great view of their “you know what” while you work those buns of your own.

2.) Ask someone to spot you:  This also goes for asking someone to show you how to use the weight machines.  Even if you know how to use the machine, or don’t need to be spotted, that sexy someone will never have to know (your secret is safe with us!).  This type of setup allows for conversation to flow naturally in a one-on-one setting.

3.) Go to the gym at the same time each day:  People normally have routine in their life.  If they go to the gym it is normally at the same time every day.  If someone catches your eye make note of the time and what kind of workout he or she is doing.  Don’t think of it as mild stalking, think of it as an opportunity to observe and ultimately determine ways you can get them to notice you!

The best times to go to the gym to meet singles

Some times the gym can be extremely slow, which is such a bore, especially when your main purpose isn’t necessarily getting fit (if you catch our drift).  So when is the best time to go?

The perfect time to go, in San Francisco, is between 6 and 8pm on weekdays.  Most people go after work and the average employed person in San Francisco tends to work slightly longer than the normal 9 to 5 shift that the rest of North American employees adheres to; so between 6 and 8 is when most singles will get their sweat on.  There are various reasons San Franciscans work longer hours but it’s mainly because San Francisco is filled with tech start-ups where employees tend to leave later in the day.  With a push for organizations to satisfy employees, most organizational cultures are relaxed and allow employees to chose when to come and go each day in San Francisco. 

Either way, going to the gym is a win-win situation; you get a great workout (ultimately getting you noticed more both at the gym and outside of it) and you also get the opportunity to meet great singles like you, who are health conscious and great looking.  So dust off those shorts and strap on those kicks and head out to your local gym; who knows whom you will meet!